His story: My wedding party with my cousins turned into a nightmare. I have a past that I don’t like to talk about; it’s behind me for all the right reasons. And like most cousins, they revealed a strange part about it in front of my wife. She’s become very guarded since then. I don’t want to discuss the topic with her and give it any importance but I want peace in my life. please help
Expert advice by Vishal Bhardwaj, Founder and Relationship Coach, Predictions For Success
There is a saying “dwelling on past issues will only deprive you of the time you have been given to make the present and future better”. People who have the idiosyncrasy of digging into the past end up with insecurity and sheer desolation.
For him: Everyone has a past, and so do you! But you have to understand that now you are in an official relationship. She is your everything. You are not committing a crime by letting your heart open in front of her. Whatever happened in the past must have given you an ominous memory. But she is the one who can alleviate your invisible anguish. Confiding her about the past, you would feel relaxed. Moreover, if you do not have any emotions attached to the person who was your past love, do not be bothered about anything.
For her: One’s past could be angelic or heinous. It seems whatever history surfaced in front of you about your husband, is a terrible memory for him. If he doesn’t want to talk about it, it’s absolutely fine. Sometimes due scrutiny kills the joy. Don’t let that happen to your relationship. You are the secure present for him, with whom he wants to set goals for the future. Be there, no matter what! Every individual has some past demons to deal with. Be the angel of his life and help him to get out of this.
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